Saturday, 21 September 2013

Jeremiah 8:18 - 9:1; Luke 16:1-13

I’d like to draw rather a long bow between the Jeremiah reading and the Gospel text (The parable of the Shrewd Manager). The one is about grief – the grief of Jeremiah for his erring Israelite people, who have turned their hearts from God and worshipped idols.  This passage might echo the very heart of God’s grief too, when we stray into unholy territory. The other is about a very shrewd business man.
We might feel like Jeremiah sometimes because many of our own people here in Australia have also fallen off the faith wagon;  they have turned their backs on the Christian faith which nurtured our nation in its infancy. And like Jeremiah, we long for our nation to turn back to belief and embrace the grace, mercy and peace of Christ.
But the first, unlikely thing I thought about both these passages when I read them was that grief and redemption can go hand in hand. We can’t ask for God’s forgiveness, until we can see our error.  We first must grieve over our fallen state, before we can seek God’s pardon. But people these days have no desire for all that confession and admitting to a fallen nature. They don’t want the clarity to see themselves as they really are, before God. They have no need of Him;  they do not grieve over their hedonistic lifestyle or their embracing of the very worst of depravity, gambling, pornography and so on.  They see no need for repentance. They have no need for forgiveness.  Perhaps a little shrewd spirituality on our part is called for.
That’s where the dodgy business manager comes in.  In the Luke reading, we have this off-putting story about the Manager who appears to conduct some very dishonest business deals on behalf of his Master, yet still comes out smelling of roses. He manages to keep onside with the boss and his clients, and keep his job at the same time – all with some clever manoeuvring and deals made with the debtors. He was very shrewd and he was definitely thinking outside the box. 
This parable has many layers about our attitude to money, to the poor, to redemption, but in essence one of its main themes is Jesus saying to his followers “If only you lot were as crafty and concerned and as focussed about MY business, as this wily fox was about saving his own interests and reputation. If only you would think outside the box now and then;  if only you would take every opportunity to showcase my Business, as well as this Manager looked out for his.  Take a lesson. Be as frank with yourselves and as clear headed about My Kingdom as these astute operators in the secular world.
I say again.  Grief can be redemptive.  This is out of the box thinking.  When I first heard this notion, I found it very confronting. I’ve proved it to be true though.  With God, any grief can have a redemptive quality; not just our grief when people stray from faith, but personal grief, even communal grief.   Grief and suffering have a spiritual shrewdness about them;  grief can lead to insightfulness;  it can sharpen and refine faith.  The grief someone feels over a failed marriage can lead them to understand why it failed;  it can redeem them from making the same mistake twice.   When God and grief are spliced together, the result is often redemption – redemption of many different kinds – not just eternal salvation.
You will have heard in the media that last month was the 50th anniversary of Martin Luther King’s “I have a dream” speech.  It’s a well-known speech. Just two weeks after that speech, in September 1963, the 16th Street Baptist Church in Birmingham, Alabama, was bombed and 4 little black girls were killed.  Birmingham Alabama was no stranger to violence, especially this church, because it was a gathering place for black Christians who campaigned for civil rights.  But the violence was mainly perpetrated on black people by white supremists – this was the case in the church bombing. Eventually, in 1964, Lyndon Johnson passed the Civil Rights bill and this ensured that black people were equal in law, and it banned segregation.  But they still couldn’t vote. And there was another significant piece of oratory, before laws were passed to secure this right.
In 1964, Fanny Lou Hamer, a negress, addressed the all-white, anti-civil-rights Democratic National Convention.  This is part of her description of the violence perpetrated on her and her race..  Fanny Lou told how she had been carried to the county gaol, because she had encouraged black people to be registered to vote.  Play sound clip.   She told how she was put in a cell next to a young black woman, Miss Ivester Simpson.  She described how she could hear this woman being beaten.  Her attackers were shouting at her, calling her nigger and other awful names, and making her say “Yes Sir”.  Fanny Lou told how her screams reverberated through the cell.  She said that after a while Ivester Simpson began to pray, and she prayed for her attackers.  She asked the Lord to have mercy on them, and forgive them for what they were doing.  She was, through her suffering, asking for redemption, not for herself, but for those beating her. Her prayers for them became, eventually, redemptive for the nation of America – redemptive in the sense that it was freed from its evil racism and inequality.
The whole equal rights movement in America began with black Christian people.  It was based, in its purest form, in non-violence and redemptive suffering – Dr King’s Movement had as it’s motto “To redeem the soul of America”. The black people were suffering but redemption would come to America because of how they behaved in that suffering as Ebester’s prayer so powerfully exampled.  I am convinced that this is God’s best, most effective work;  that of turning bad into good, turning grief into joy;  turning wretched ungodliness into redemption. It has power beyond our reckoning or imagination. This is the work of the Kingdom, about which we must be so shrewd.
It is perhaps to draw a long bow to call this spiritual shrewdness, but the parable introduces us to the astute man who became righteous – not by begging for mercy and praying on his knees – but by forgiving the debts of others in the Master’s name. A key component of God’s Kingdom is all about forgiveness, mercy and grace to the undeserving.  And sometimes, as we walk across the bridge of our own grief, or someone else’s, we cross into that most shrewd and unlikely of God’s gifts – that of redemption and grace to help in time of need.  We cross the bridge of suffering, into God’s grace.
Just as the Shrewd Manager was retained, and benefitted from his prudence, Jesus uses this example to assure us that as we are shrewd managers with his forgiveness and grace, He will entrust us with the riches of heaven. As we forgive the debts of others, we ourselves are forgiven;  as we struggle with our own suffering, we become perhaps, the catalyst for another’s redemption, or even our own.
The dodgy manager could have followed the convention and been given his marching orders or dragged through the courts;  instead he made some succinct decisions and thought “what can I do to bring good out of bad;  what can I do for a positive outcome? 
What can we do for a positive outcome in the face of either our nations backsliding or grief?  We can decide to be astute and prudent with our emotional energy and spend it praying for others. We can be the vehicle of redemption through God’s amazing ability to bring good out of bad. Packaged up with grief is opportunity for the Kingdom of God to be passed on to people who may not receive it from a person who is powerful and with well-established social prominence.
It’s not that we want to experience grief or disempowerment.  We don’t want others to have it either, but let’s remember that God is never defeated by grief;   God’s Kingdom was started with grief and suffering on the cross.  God, who is the convener of life and death, the author of redemption, used grief very shrewdly – outside the box of what we think should happen, to bring redemption to us, to others, and especially to those who hurt us.

Forgiveness looms large in this because it’s not the norm – the norm is to hate those who hurt abuse and use us, but like the woman in the cell in Birmingham, we can pray for those who hurt us – God can take that attitude, those prayers, that resolve, to release and grow his Kingdom in very powerful ways.  Oh that we can strive to be this shrewd with his Kingdom to his glory and for the redemption of others.

Wednesday, 4 September 2013

What do we do when people hurt us?


What do we do when people hurt us?  How do we cope with the wounds?  How do we go from brokenness to healing?

Perhaps our first instinct is to hit out at those who have hurt us.  We want to hurt back.  This never worked for me.  I didn’t really take this path when I was battling my own hurts from people I trusted.

I tended to become introspective, and that’s not a bad thing in itself, but I spent too much time being bitter, self-pitying and wanting justice.  The justice thing is difficult.  It’s natural to want justice;  to have our name cleared, or to be vindicated.  It’s also natural to want to be recompensed for what we’ve lost.  But when we stray from wanting justice, to wanting revenge, we are entering a cavern of self-destruction.

But there are better things than revenge, and in my experience justice and vindication can be hard to achieve because it often depends on others and you can’t change others. 

Better than justice, is healing for you, regardless of what happens to those who’ve hurt you.  It may be good to try and get justice for yourself, but this isn’t always possible.  Healing, on the other hand, is something which allows you to triumph, no matter what has happened to you.

You being healed, happy and strong is the best kind of justice and retribution.  Hankering after “getting back at people” is one of the most destructive forces you can foster.  But it won’t destroy them;  it will destroy you.

If you find a way to hurt your abusers, there won’t be the relief you crave.  Or if there is, then you are a long way down the journey to becoming just like them.  Are you sure that’s what you want?

My advice to you is to spend your emotional energy on finding your own self. If you don't want to repeat the pattern, you must understand what mistakes you made, or why you trusted the wrong people or became vulnerable to victimisation. Sometimes these things are out of our control.  It's been my experience that some people will hurt you because they like doing it, and because they can.  They must face that on that Great Day when all will be revealed and all will be called to account.  But you must concern yourself only with yourself.

Use your energy in positive and constructive ways.  Leave the resentment and hatred of those who’ve hurt you, with God.

There may be people reading this blog who find the image of a Christian God unacceptable because of some hurt or abuse suffered at the hands of some phoney person in the organised church.

Go past them and find an image of God you are comfortable with;  whether it’s a gentle Shepherd Jesus, or a father figure God, or even a dying Jesus, asking forgiveness of His killers.  Put your negative emotions and feelings into the hands of this God.  Get them out of your soul and into the heart of the great Being who made us all. Acknowledge it’s there – acknowledge the destructive emotions, then say “I’m not listening to you. Go away”. And give them to God. Imagine them flying off from your mind and body, into the great Cosmos, and there they dissolve. You may have to take this action over and over again.  It may not feel like it, but each time, you are leaving a little more of it behind.

I also cannot stress enough,  the benefit of physical occupation during times of grief, anxiety or agitation. The physicality of moving or using your hands, especially if it’s creative, somehow provides a channel;  a mechanism which “uses up” or releases the negative emotions.  Find something you like doing;  something which makes you live in the moment. It might be gardening, or playing golf – any occupation in which you are only thinking about doing that thing. This also releases good chemicals into your body which helps you stay happy and balanced.

For me, it was bushwalking. I wore out at least two pairs of stout shoes tramping through the beautiful mid north coast environment of NSW in Australia.  I walked, with a social group, every Friday, through beach scapes and forest;  climbed the Fire Lookout at Comboyne plateau – it felt like I sat on the top of the world as I looked out across to the valley below.  Gardening was also a wonderful diversion;  knitting, sewing;  these too kept anxiety at bay. You are a strong, resilient person;  you can find strength you didn't know you had.  I did.  Peace be with you.